In my opinion it is more important to like ourselves then love ourselves. Why? Because love is an emotion and is part of our emotional DNA, - therefore we all will experience love in some way no matter how distorted it may be. People that hate themselves love themselves enough to run to safety when their lives are in danger -- it's built in.
But "like" is not built-in -- it's an acquired taste, in order to "like" ourselves we must look ourselves in mirror of our lives and be completely honest about what we see, and how we feel about it. I believe, we can never truly love ourselves until we first "like" who we are as an individual person -- because "liking" who we are restores inner peace.
The journey of inner peace begins with first identifying all the things about our personal character that we do not like. So here is the exercise:
Get three sheets of paper; draw a line down the center of each one.
Sheet One
On the first sheet write this heading: "All the things I like about myself"
In the left column list all the things you like about yourself.
In the right column list all the ways you can improve them.
Sheet Two
On the second sheet write this heading: "All the things I do not like about myself"In the left column list all the things you do not like about yourself.In the right column list what you will need to do to eliminate the negative trait.
Example: Let's us a "gossiper" as our example.
The one thing all gossipers have in common is the fact that they like to talk (and that's fine) so the solution for a gossiper is not to "stop talking" because they are talkers by nature. The solution is to change from talking about a negative to talking about a positive --because that one change automatically puts you in a different class of people. Because you become a different person and people that are only interested in negativity will not be interested in talking to you (anymore) -- you just instantly improved the quality of your life by changing no one but yourself.
Sheet Three - list all the things you are grateful for.
Have a great day!
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A Self-destructive Mentality
Welcome to the: You’re Not Black Enough Blog.
As black folk we have unfortunately come to believe that to “be black” is to live a life of poverty, crime, community blithe and total victim hood. This erroneous thinking has caused us to develop a "crab in the basket" tactic designed to keep progressive blacks from wanting to live up to their full potential – in order to deflect the light from shining on the large portion of black folk that can do, but won't do.
This blog, created by a back female will explore and expose through her eyes, the many ways this very destructive mentality is killing us as a people, and how it adversely affects the entire world in which we live. You probably have grasped by now that the content on this blog will in essence cut to the very core of what is ailing black folk as a people.
In other words it will embarrass some, constructively hurt some, anger most of which they will say: “you’re not better than me”, infuriate others into crying “sell out” and impulse most, to more "white people" finger pointing, yet another group will say "this is really a white persons blog". And we must not forget the notorious Jerry Springer style "you don't know me" group.
For the pseudo degreed among us, meaning those that use, having a degree to try to make others feel inadequate, so they can further delude themselves into believing that they are superior which is the tactic used to hide the fact that they too have low self-esteem.
This group suffers from "mis-educated black hypocrisy" they will address every situation by first asserting their degree-ism. As though one must have a degree to know what they are talking about, and they will always demand to see your credentials, because "unless you have a degree, you couldn't possibly know what you're talking about".
This group is quite convoluted, because they possess the intelligence to make a real difference among our people but because they believe a degree alone is the universal panacea they erroneously believe two things:
First, they can somehow escape the association of the "black plight" through their degree.
Secondly, that they couldn't possibly play a role in the problem, because they have a degree.
Another group will be highly offended because they are nothing like what is posted on this blog. Then I say to you: "join me" in exposing the stench that is killing us. And finally, the smallest group will be those that will rejoice at these postings because they feel the same way.
In the end this blog and it's content will be a catalyst to those that were unable to see what was right before their eyes. This is about healing. And just as when one's broken leg is healing the process itself does not feel good, but I doubt if anyone has ever said, "I don't want the cast put on my broken leg because healing does not feel good".
The quality of our lives as a people is contingent upon us facing these very facts about our condition. So if it causes you to experience anger, embarrassment, sadness or happiness GOOD. Because until we address the hypocrisy and the false sense of victim hood that plagues our communities we will continue to implode.
None-the-less, and without apology this blog will expose the generally unconsidered, fearfully unspoken and totally unadulterated truth.
I would like to add, that the “you’re not black enough” tactic is not just limited to the seriously impoverished. This mentality begins with generational impoverishment, and moves on to those with annual incomes into the millions. For if it were not true, we would not hear so-called black stars (Vivica Fox) saying:
“The racist cop arrested me for drunk driving because I’m black”.
Never considering the far-fetched possibility that she may have actually gotten arrested for drunk driving because she was drunk. So her arrest had nothing to do with being "black", but everything to do with her "irresponsible behavior".
To say that she was arrested because she is black is nothing more than a feigned victim game used as a smoke screen so that she can continue to destroy herself under the guise of racism. When the real issue is the reasons why she needs to be drunk in the first place, and then risk her life and the lives of others doing so, when she has more than enough money to pay a driver. Sounds like a state of self-destruction grounded in pure unhappiness, and the dangerous cry for help.
In the real world, in order to prove beyond all doubt that you were arrested for drunk driving because you are "black". Logic would demand that you would first have to NOT BE DRUNK i.e. GUILTY. It is this type of backward thinking that is killing us as a people, and this blog will courageously call out and put on the square. So as you peruse through, and post comments, keep three things in mind:
1. All Are Welcome
2. The truth may hurt, but it's the only thing that can help
3. Once the consciousness is raised, you can never go back. You can pretend to not know it, but you can never un-know it.
So Hold On, because it's time for a paradigm shift. . .
As black folk we have unfortunately come to believe that to “be black” is to live a life of poverty, crime, community blithe and total victim hood. This erroneous thinking has caused us to develop a "crab in the basket" tactic designed to keep progressive blacks from wanting to live up to their full potential – in order to deflect the light from shining on the large portion of black folk that can do, but won't do.
This blog, created by a back female will explore and expose through her eyes, the many ways this very destructive mentality is killing us as a people, and how it adversely affects the entire world in which we live. You probably have grasped by now that the content on this blog will in essence cut to the very core of what is ailing black folk as a people.
In other words it will embarrass some, constructively hurt some, anger most of which they will say: “you’re not better than me”, infuriate others into crying “sell out” and impulse most, to more "white people" finger pointing, yet another group will say "this is really a white persons blog". And we must not forget the notorious Jerry Springer style "you don't know me" group.
For the pseudo degreed among us, meaning those that use, having a degree to try to make others feel inadequate, so they can further delude themselves into believing that they are superior which is the tactic used to hide the fact that they too have low self-esteem.
This group suffers from "mis-educated black hypocrisy" they will address every situation by first asserting their degree-ism. As though one must have a degree to know what they are talking about, and they will always demand to see your credentials, because "unless you have a degree, you couldn't possibly know what you're talking about".
This group is quite convoluted, because they possess the intelligence to make a real difference among our people but because they believe a degree alone is the universal panacea they erroneously believe two things:
First, they can somehow escape the association of the "black plight" through their degree.
Secondly, that they couldn't possibly play a role in the problem, because they have a degree.
Another group will be highly offended because they are nothing like what is posted on this blog. Then I say to you: "join me" in exposing the stench that is killing us. And finally, the smallest group will be those that will rejoice at these postings because they feel the same way.
In the end this blog and it's content will be a catalyst to those that were unable to see what was right before their eyes. This is about healing. And just as when one's broken leg is healing the process itself does not feel good, but I doubt if anyone has ever said, "I don't want the cast put on my broken leg because healing does not feel good".
The quality of our lives as a people is contingent upon us facing these very facts about our condition. So if it causes you to experience anger, embarrassment, sadness or happiness GOOD. Because until we address the hypocrisy and the false sense of victim hood that plagues our communities we will continue to implode.
None-the-less, and without apology this blog will expose the generally unconsidered, fearfully unspoken and totally unadulterated truth.
I would like to add, that the “you’re not black enough” tactic is not just limited to the seriously impoverished. This mentality begins with generational impoverishment, and moves on to those with annual incomes into the millions. For if it were not true, we would not hear so-called black stars (Vivica Fox) saying:
“The racist cop arrested me for drunk driving because I’m black”.
Never considering the far-fetched possibility that she may have actually gotten arrested for drunk driving because she was drunk. So her arrest had nothing to do with being "black", but everything to do with her "irresponsible behavior".
To say that she was arrested because she is black is nothing more than a feigned victim game used as a smoke screen so that she can continue to destroy herself under the guise of racism. When the real issue is the reasons why she needs to be drunk in the first place, and then risk her life and the lives of others doing so, when she has more than enough money to pay a driver. Sounds like a state of self-destruction grounded in pure unhappiness, and the dangerous cry for help.
In the real world, in order to prove beyond all doubt that you were arrested for drunk driving because you are "black". Logic would demand that you would first have to NOT BE DRUNK i.e. GUILTY. It is this type of backward thinking that is killing us as a people, and this blog will courageously call out and put on the square. So as you peruse through, and post comments, keep three things in mind:
1. All Are Welcome
2. The truth may hurt, but it's the only thing that can help
3. Once the consciousness is raised, you can never go back. You can pretend to not know it, but you can never un-know it.
So Hold On, because it's time for a paradigm shift. . .
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I've done the first entry. I don't know if you are still keeping up with this blog or even if I'll like the second entry... but I found this one helpful to me.
I often FEEL that I'm not black enough and I don't know that I ... know where you are coming from in posting those videos. It makes me sad to see those broken people and to think that the way that they behave makes people think that they have no potential to contribute amazing things to our world and society. It also makes me sad that by looking at people behaving this way, people may judge all black people by that...
Whether I continue with this blog or not, it's really cool to see someone starting to talk about these things from a POV of encouraging others to take responsibility for who they are and what they put out there.
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